Rules for the play parties

These rules are adapted from Leatherwoods (Oregon, USA) and Against the Wall (Montreal, Canada) events for the purposes of the Kink Collective.

A copy of these rules is given to anyone who accesses a play party from the Kink Collective.

Your presence at the play party alone attests that you have read, understood and accepted these rules. You will be held responsible for any breach.

Play etiquette

  • Any photography, video and other types of recordings are strictly prohibited.

  • Scenes in progress: never interrupt a scene. If you want to observe a scene, do so from a respectable distance and minimize noise and conversations. Under no circumstances can you join a scene unless you have been invited to do so.

  • Personal space: approach people slowly and with courtesy, be careful not to invade their personal space and be particularly sensitive to players who are in after care.

  • Use of furniture and equipment offered by the dungeon: the use of furniture and equipment is reserved primarily for players who are performing a scene or who are in aftercare. If you are not in play or in aftercare, you may be asked to give up the furniture (table, sofa, mattress, etc.).

Restrictions

  • No urinary play or toilet play is allowed.

  • Play involving blood and needles must be carried out in the medical room provided for this purpose with all the necessary safety precautions.

  • Genitals must be covered in the main dungeon area, full nudity is only permitted in private rooms.

  • Sexuality and genital stimulation are only permitted in private rooms.

  • If you intend to do blood play, needles, knife play, edge play or CNC (consensual non-consent), we ask that you notify and discuss it with the dungeon monitors. Otherwise, you might be asked to pause or stop your scene to provide explanations.

  • Alcohol, tobacco/cannabis and drugs: the sale of alcohol is not permitted on the premises, but you can bring your own drinks, in moderation. Those wishing to smoke will have to do so outside. The use of any other drug is not permitted.

  • Any person in an altered state deemed dangerous in a play setting may be asked to stop the scene. Any person in an altered state who harms the atmosphere and the well-being of the evening and its participants will be invited to leave the premises expressly and without notice.

Safety

  • Dungeon monitors (DMs) wear a visually recognizable armband. They are on hand to answer your questions and concerns. They will intervene if a scene or players are deemed unsafe or do not respect the rules of the play party.

  • Communication systems: the “traffic lights” system is recommended for your scenes and is the one used in the dungeon. Dungeon monitors will be ready to intervene if a “red” is called. As a reminder :

    • Green = everything is nice, the scene can continue at the same intensity and rhythm.

    • Yellow = we are approaching a limit, a break is necessary or a change in intensity or action.

    • Red = a limit is exceeded, the scene must be stopped.

  • Negotiations: discussions and negotiations must be done before a scene and outside the playing area. Give time and attention to negotiations; be sure to clearly state your needs and limits for all portions of the scene (preparation, performance and aftercare). If necessary, ask the dungeon monitors for help with your negotiations.

Consent

  • Consent is required for all situations involving other players, objects and furniture during play parties, such as;

    • Touch: any physical contact (cuddling, caressing, petting, slapping, hitting, etc.) must be requested and consented to beforehand. If a person consents to a specific type of touch, it does not mean that they consent to any other type of touch!

    • The use of objects that do not belong to you or that are not in free use in the dungeon and furniture already occupied: if you are interested in an object from another player or in using furniture occupied, wait until the scene is over before discussing it and ask permission before touching or handling the object.

  • Valid consent is consent that is freely given, active, renewed, revocable, clear and comfortable.

  • Know how to accept non-consent, a “no” or a refusal with grace and respect. Thank the person for considering your request and continue your evening pleasantly. No passive-aggressive, aggressive, violent or coercive reaction to non-consent will be tolerated; you will be asked to leave the dungeon expressly and without notice.

Maintenance of premises and hygiene

Disinfectant wipes are available throughout the dungeon. Please thoroughly disinfect any toys and furniture you used during a scene. The medical room must be disinfected and cleaned of all disposable objects after use. Beds in private rooms should be disinfected after use, even if you don't see any trace of body fluid.